From My Mother's Mouth To My Daughter's Ears "Fulfill Your Desire" 19

From My Mother's Mouth To My Daughter's Ears "Fulfill Your Desire"

The mother-daughter relationship is a slippery slope. Love them, hate them, love them, I can speak of my relationship with my mother only in the past tense. She passed in 1983 when I was 27 and had two babies to bring up, now without her. There isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of her. Mom's advice to me before she died was this "Fulfill your Desire" that's basically what she said. She wasn't eloquent, she said do what you want to do in this life, don't look back with regret at not having done that which you desire. I wasn't able to fulfill this until now. I've lived my life but was busy trying to keep my head above water with those two kids to raise and all. Now is my time. I know this in my heart of hearts. I will not leave this life without doing this, for myself and for my Mom. I AM FULFILLING MY DESIRE.

There are several parts to my desire, it isn't just one thing. I wanted to do something important with my life, outside of the whole raising kids and family stuff. I had no idea what that "itch and burn" in my soul was until this year. Then I realized I want to be a writer. I had no freaking idea this was my desire until I stumbled into it. Well, we all know there are no coincidences so "stumbled into it" should be "when God helped me to realize it." I love writing. I am doing something important that exists outside of my maternal responsibilities. Something just for me. My Desire. Part 1.

And now I pass on this advice to you my daughter, because part of my Desire is for you to "Fulfill Your Desire." My Desire. Part 2. I know that it's hard raising three kids by yourself but you are doing the best job you possibly can and I am so proud of you. So is she. You may not know what it is yet, this Desire, just like I didn't until now. It's there, though, and will present itself when the time is right.

I miss my Mom every single day but I know that her spirit lives on in me, my kids, and my grandkids. I know she is smiling down on me now because I got it. Yes Mom, I really got it. Thank you and I love you.

A special note to my son Jesse. I know this post talks about your sister and doesn't mention you. Everything that I am saying to Jocelyn applies to you. It's just that this is a Mother's Day article and she is a Mother! I love you both, equally and want the same for you both. Equally.

Namaste Mothers everywhere. And we all know that every day really is Mother's Day.




Mom and Dad Wedding Day 1955

This is dedicated to my mom, Marion. And to my Aunt Claire who took over over being my "Muv" after Mom passed. Thank you. And to my Aunt Cheryl for her support of my work. You Rock!

What We Can Learn From Adam Yauch And Junior Seau 18

What We Can Learn From Adam Yauch And Junior Seau

This is not a humorous post. The passing of spirit from one life to another is a serious topic. I didn't know either of these gentlemen and I never will because last week they both passed. One by his own hand, the other by disease. My condolences and blessings to their families.

Adam Yauch had no choice in his departure. His human body was terminally ill, which is God's way of ending this part of our journey. God called him home.

Junior Seau felt he had no choice in his departure. His spirit was terminally ill and Junior chose not to continue his journey. God allowed him to come home.

Despite the words to the "Mash" theme song, suicide is not painless. It causes the ones left behind to swirl in their own version of Hell, why didn't he tell me he was unhappy I could have fixed it for him, how could he do that, we are left with questions. No answers are coming, we must be satisfied knowing that this is what they felt they had to do. You must also remember that God allowed this to happen.

I know something about this subject. My grandfather decided to end his life, as did my beloved Brian's father, and very recently his good friend. Several years ago my good friend also ended his life and I was shocked. Never saw it coming. Most of the time you won't because most people do not announce their pain. They try to deal with it themselves. And then one day they just give up.

The bottom line folks is be kind to everyone you meet. You do not know what they are dealing with. 

Plato said it best:

"Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."

 

Greek author & philosopher in Athens (427 BC - 347 BC)

Namaste.

Look Out, Not Down 17

Look Out, Not Down

What is your posture right now, at this minute? Are you sitting straight up in your chair, head held high looking out onto your computer screen?

Or are you slumped over, shoulders slouched with your head tilted down, eyes tilted up?

Be honest, there's no prize for the correct answer. You can't move forward if you don't know where you are right now.

In order to illustrate my point, look at your posture when you drive. If you sit slumped over the wheel looking down at the pavement chances are very good that you will crash, you can't see what is up ahead. When you drive, as when you live, you must look out, not down. Back straight, shoulders back, head and chin held high. Hard NOT to "look out" if you physically put yourself into this position. Same with your outlook on life. Focus completely on where you are right now and you have no idea where you are heading. If you look out you can see where you are now as well as where you are going, much better for you and the car!

Don't look down, look out toward your destination.

Namaste.